Communication is crucial, and even if we don't see each other for several days at a time, it's important to be on the same page. It will only get worse. I am a lawyer married to a surgical oncologist. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church. We'll discuss further after the holiday and see where we end up. Their values and the values of popular western culture are wildly disparate, which can be tough for them to navigate early in life. Trust Building Exercises for Couples. Every new set in our ward looks at him as fresh meat.
Either you are just fun for now or she wants to change you. You have been blessed with the equipment to make such decisions. Like, she thought that serving would remedy her of any doubts or testimony issues. But daytime game is the key. I get to experience the joys of his culture, which I never would have known otherwise. Take what you read with a grain of salt. So how do we approach saving a relationship with someone who has unrealistic expectations of what a long-term relationship looks like. Home no title About Contact. Get her to explain what she believes, and how it might differ from her church.
I have suggested a date night just for us but, he doesn't want a scheduled night for dates. Because I have a husband that is not a member I have a quasi like status in the ward. A lot of Mormons think that good people will obviously recognize the truthfulness of the church and quickly join. I almost left the marriage,3xs. No lie he was one of the kindest human beings I've metbut I was afraid of getting deeper into the relationship, so I ended it. To Anonymous, Your comment also left me heartbroken. My husband's extramarital relationships were well-known in the hospital where he practiced. I think Bob, the answer can be found in your comment. The ideal, in my opinion, is that she discovers what we all know about the lies the church tells her.
The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. If this is someone you are to marry, then the rest will take care of itself. In the end people have to make their own decisions. You should take all of the above advice to heart and follow it just in case, so you can make a smooth transition should it ever be necessary. She doesn't want to marry you.